當你信靠天主，做事問心無愧，卻有人在你面前，或在你背後，甚至背著你，向你的上司說三道四，投訴你的不是的時候，基督徒，你應如何自處呢？向你的師傅學習吧！
首先，你的師傅經常祈禱，尋求天父的旨意。所以，第一步是自我檢討，我有沒有犯了錯而不知道；又或者，我有沒有暫時忘記了天主，所以天主找個投訴人來提醒我呢？
誠然，如果投訴人在你背後批評你，你是沒有解釋的機會，他也沒有明白事實的機會。你沒有甚麼可以做了，難道窮追猛打，找他出來澄清嗎？於事無補！倘若他想明白事實，他就不會匿名投訴。所以，惟有為他祈禱，希望他有明白的一天。
如果他當面向你投訴，表示他想明白事理。但在你回答之前，也應停下來想一想，你的師傅是何等的體諒：「新酒應裝在新皮囊裡！」（谷2:22）因為投訴的人沒有你的修維，也未必明白、喜歡你新穎的做事方式。他「喝著陳酒，不願意喝新酒，因為他說：還是舊的好。」（路5:39）這時候，出於愛德，為了他的尊嚴，你嘗試用比喻向他解釋吧，不要據理力爭，傷及兄弟情誼！但比喻有效嗎？天曉得！恐怕若翰的門徒和法利塞人，聽完「新郎伴郎」的比喻之後，到最後一刻也沒有接受你師傅的解釋！軟比喻與硬道理之間，還是軟的好！
基督徒，愛那批評你的人啊！你的師傅也是這樣做的！「忍耐磨難」是神哀矜！
主基督，請增加我們的愛德，多行神哀矜，特別是忍耐磨難。亞孟。
BEARING WRONGS PATIENTLY (Mark 2:18-22)
When you trust in the Lord and work conscientiously, somebody speaks ill of you before you or behind your back; and even accuse you before your boss without letting you know. Christians, what should you do? Learn from your Master!
For of all, your Master always prays to seek the Father's will. Thus, the first step you should take is to evaluate whether you have done anything wrong without knowing it. Or perhaps have you forgotten God temporarily so that He sends a complainant to wake you up? Frankly, if the complainant criticizes you behind your back, you have no opportunity to explain and he has no opportunity to know the truth. There is nothing you can you. Dig him up to clarify? It won't work! If he wants to know the truth, he won't make anonymous complaints. So, you can only pray for him, hoping that he will understand one day.
If he confronts and complains you, it shows that he wants to know the truth. But even before you explain, you should also stop to think. How understanding your Master is! "New wine is poured into fresh wineskins." (Mark 2:22) The complainant does not have your experiences. He may not understand or appreciate your new style of working. "No one who has been drinking old wine desires new, for he says, ‘The old is good.'"(Luke 5:39) At this moment, out of charity and for his dignity, try to explain yourself in parables. Don't argue with reasons and injure fraternity! Would parables work? God knows! I am afraid after hearing the parable of the bridegroom and wedding guests, the disciples of John the Baptist and Pharisees would never accept your Master's explanation even on the day they died! Between soft parables and hard reasons, I prefer soft ones!
Christians! Love those who criticize you! Your Master did it! Bearing wrongs patiently is a spiritual work of mercy!
Lord Jesus Christ, increase our charity to do more spiritual works of mercy, in particular, bearing wrongs patiently. Amen.
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