（瑪5:20-26）
以暴力方法，恃強凌弱來解決紛爭，雖然是最容易的手段，但卻後患無窮！因為以力勝人，祇能當你的力量還是足夠強的時候，纔有勝算。不要忘記，一山還有一山高，遲早你的對手會找來一個比你更強的人對付你，你的勝利便不會長久了。又或者對手比你聰明，他可能發現到以少勝多，以弱制強的戰術，例如幾個弱者結盟，聯手採取行動對抗你，獲得最後的勝利！最後，孤軍作戰的弱者一方，寧為玉碎，不作瓦存，來一招玉石俱焚，以致兩敗俱傷。所以，用暴力方法解決紛爭，除了不文明之外，可能得不償失。和解，永遠是最好的方法！
和解的先決條件是要有一顆和平寧靜的心。人發怒，便傾向使用暴力，以至做出得不償失，甚至後悔莫及的事。所以，天主勸加音管理好自己的忿怒（創4:7），耶穌基督更指出發怒的嚴重性，與殺人看齊（瑪5:22）。
其實，和解必先從自己開始。原來很多人因為種種原因，惱恨自己，不能接受自己。人不能接受自己，不外乎把自己的背景，自己的身體特徵等因素與別人比較，而產生自卑感…這一切反應都不是天主所願意看見的。祂給每人的塔冷通都不一樣，祂要求我們善用這些塔冷通，而不是埋怨不夠塔冷通！人惱恨自己，不外乎做錯了事，連累了其他人，又沒有勇氣承擔。其實，耶穌基督已經替我們承擔了一切！所以，每個人必須先和自己和解，使自己成為一個內心和平的人。這樣，你與別人的和解纔是真實的，恆久的，而不是勉強的，被迫的和解！
天父啊！一切美善都是出於祢的，請賜我們一顆和平的心，好能締造和平，成為祢名副其實的子女。亞孟。
Reconcile with Oneself
(Matthew 5:20-26) Althought resorting to violence and overpowering the weak to resolve disputes is the most convenient means, it entails troubles in the future. It is because overpowering people works only when your might is mighty enough. Don't forget, sooner of later, your rival will be able to get somebody stronger to defeat you. Your victory will not last. Or your rival is smarter. He is able to discover the tactics of outnumbering you. For example, several weaklings form an alliance, working together to defeat you! Lastly, the weaker side fighting alone might decide to annihilate together with you. Thus, not only is resorting to violence to resolve dispute uncivilized, but it is also not cost effective. Reconciliation is always the best means!
The prerequisite of reconciliation is a peaceful heart. When a person is furious, he tends to make use of violence, doing something not cost effective or something he would later regret. Thus, God exhorted Cain to manage his anger (Genesis 4:7). Jesus Christ also points out the seriousness of anger, equating it to murder (Matthew 5:22).
Indeed, reconciliation begins with oneself. For various reasons, many people resent and cannot accept themselves. The major reason is comparison of their background and characteristics of their body figures with others, resulting in an inferiority complex ... God does not want to see these reactions. He gives different people different amount of talents. He wants us to make good use of them instead of complaining about insufficient talents. Furthermore, people resent themselves because they make mistakes harming others and are not courageous enough to shoulder the responsibility. In fact, Jesus Christ has shouldered all debts for us. Thus, everybody should reconcile with oneself to gain inner peace. Then, their reconciliation with others shall be genuine and long lasting instead of being forced to reconcile!
Heavenly Father. All good comes from You. Grant us a peaceful heart so that we can be peace-maker, genuine children of yours. Amen.
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